When you're just getting to know someone, the thought of talking about sex might make both of you feel awkward. But remember that being honest with your partner about everything, including your sexual relationship, is one of the keys to a healthy relationship.
So, how do you start? Today, we’ll discuss ways to go about the “sex talk” in your new relationship.
How to have the 'sex talk' with a new partner?
Having sex for the first time with a new partner can be exhilarating, intimidating, nerve-wracking, intriguing, and a whole lot more at the same time.
It is best for everyone involved in a relationship to talk about sex as soon as possible. The longer one waits, the harder it may be to talk.
First, you need to build trust and closeness by talking about simple things like consent. After that, you and your partner can figure out what makes each of you feel good and what doesn't and go from there.
Don't sugarcoat anything; be honest with your partner
Men commonly feel awkward when talking about sex because they think their partner will judge them or even make jokes about them. But it's important to know that if your partner wants to have sex with you, they should respect your wishes.
Let the conversation comes naturally.
It's possible that when you and your partner are both ready, talking about sex will come easily and naturally. But sometimes, one of you might be better prepared than the other and might be the one to start the conversation. When talking about sex, don't force it because it can make you feel awkward or even embarrassed.
Take it slow
First impressions are important, but you don't need to go into too much detail. You don't have to constantly go into much detail. So, think of it this way: start the conversation as if you're just getting to know each other better to ensure you're on the same page about sex.
Pick the right timing.
Timing is an essential part of any meaningful communication. Don't bring it up when your partner can't pay attention to what you're saying. Instead, wait until they're ready to talk.
If your partner is busy with something else and you try to talk about sex, it will be hard to get what you want out of the conversation. Sex needs 100% of both of your attention. You can suggest a specific time to talk about it.
Open communication between you and your new partner is important if you want to make good decisions for both of you. All that matters is how well each person fits into the other's personality, values, and comfort level. Find your comfort zone and talk about it openly with your partner. You and your partner will find the perfect time to get together.
Tips to Make Your Sex Last Longer in a New Relationship
Different ideas and expectations about sex can make it hard to get close sexually in a new relationship. Because of this, sex and closeness are important in a new relationship. For a relationship to work, both partners must respect each other's privacy and keep a strong sexual connection. Even though it's hard to do, it can be done well.
It is important to communicate with your partner whatever makes you feel uneasy. It's possible that they won't realise that what they're doing is crossing a boundary you have created and vice versa. This is why it's essential to have open communication.
Here are some things you can do when you and your new partner have your first sexual encounter.
Start with something gentle and sensual.
Set the mood for romance by ensuring the room smells good, the light is just right, and play some romantic music in the background. Then, a massage, neck kisses, and much sweet talk are all great ways to start. Essentially, focus on foreplay.
Since hypersensitivity can make you ejaculate faster, using a condom is a simple way to extend the pleasure of sex. Condoms can help you last longer because they act as a protective barrier.
You may be more likely to ejaculate if you thrust quickly and intensely. As well as making it harder to feel small changes in your body, moving quickly can also speed up the start of ejaculation.
Try moving more slowly and often stopping to slow things down even more. If you don’t want to lose control and start ejaculating, get into positions that limit your movement, like having your partner be on top.
You can also think about something else, like what you're going to eat for dinner or a movie you saw a few weeks ago. This can take your mind off the sensations you’re experiencing and stop you from ejaculating for a short time.
However, you might find that it lessens your pleasure and intimacy in a sexual relationship.
You can try this out and see if it makes sex last longer, but stay in the moment and connect to your partner.
Improve your cardiovascular health
Working hard to improve your heart health could have a big effect on your sexual life. Cardio exercises like running, jogging, or cycling can help your lungs get stronger and expand your capacity to hold more air. This can also help you find a way to stay in bed longer.
Physical activity in general also makes the body generate more endorphins, which is another benefit. This can help you let go of stress, stay calm, and enjoy sexual pleasure, making you less likely to ejaculate too soon.