What Makes a Sexual Relationship Healthy?

It might be awkward to broach the subject of sex, even with your partner. However, a strong sexual connection is a cornerstone of a fulfilling relationship

6 Jan 2023 INSIGHTS

It might be awkward to broach the subject of sex, even with your partner. However, a strong sexual connection is a cornerstone of a fulfilling relationship

Read on to learn more about the signs of a healthy sexual relationship. 

What does a healthy sexual relationship look like?

For a sexual relationship to be considered healthy, both partners must feel like their sexual needs are being addressed. In other words, you and your partner are content with your sex life, getting enough sex, and not experiencing abuse. When you have a healthy sexual relationship, this equals a relationship that is filled with respect.

Your sexual life might be affected by several factors beyond your control. To offer just one example, it can be challenging to put sex with your partner first if you have many responsibilities that day. It's possible that your daily schedule doesn't allow you to devote much thought to the topic of sex.

Factors like work and stress can take their toll on relationships, perhaps causing a rift in sexual satisfaction. However, if you and your partner are both committed to resolving these sexual issues, you may be able to find a way to make these challenges easier to bear.

If you or your partner have sexual performance problems, consult a professional to help you figure things out. 

How to tell if you have a healthy sexual relationship? 

If you want to understand how to have a good sexual relationship, these are some areas to focus on.

#1 Open communication.

You two must have open lines of communication on a wide range of topics – you need to feel comfortable talking to your partner about anything. Open communication lines can make expressing your emotions and needs simpler in a sexual relationship, benefiting you and your partner. You should prioritise overcoming your shyness and talk to your partner about the things that matter to you, including your sexual preferences. 

#2 You can work through problems together

You know you're in a healthy sexual relationship when you can talk things out and figure out solutions to your issues as a couple. You can talk things out and find a solution that works for everyone whenever a problem arises. This may be challenging to achieve, but it is vital if you want to improve your sex life.

#3 You show vulnerability to each other

Another sign of a strong sexual connection is the ability to relax and be yourself around one another. You can feel safe letting your emotions out here. Even if you're having a horrible day, your significant other will always be there to lift your spirits. This might help you feel more appreciated because it shows that your relationship is about more than just having sex.

#4 Trust is an earnest, mutual commitment.

To have a healthy sexual relationship, you must also be able to trust each other. The lesson here is not to assume the worst just because things appear a certain way. Allow your spouse the chance to explain themselves and have faith that they will extend the same courtesy to you. Resolving the issue openly will bring you closer together.

#5 You can do other things together. 

Activities that both partners in a healthy relationship can enjoy are plentiful. You can get to know each other better by hanging out, going on dates, and practising nonverbal cues. Looking into activities you can do together to strengthen your bond could be a good idea if this is something you're interested in.

#6 You feel good about yourself and the relationship overall.

Feeling good about yourself and life, in general, is likely if you believe you are part of a healthy relationship. Many facets of life can improve when you have a partner who cares about you and treats you with respect and appreciation. A sense of caring, love and even a boost to your sense of self-worth and esteem may result from hearing that your thoughts and feelings are valued. To strengthen a relationship, it's helpful to aim for these things.

#7 You still get to do what you like. 

Both people in a healthy partnership get to pursue their passions. A healthy relationship will provide the space for both. A good relationship requires both partners to maintain their unique identities while embracing their roles as a couple. 

Key Takeaway

A good and healthy sexual relationship is a complex topic that involves many factors. When assessing the state of your relationship, keep in mind the qualities discussed in this piece and make an effort to improve the weak areas in your current relationship. Remember that any solid relationship takes time to build. 

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